I wouldn't re-use if I could avoid, but My turbo engine has had the head removed twice since the first build 8 years ago and the same gasket is still doing it's job
I bought a new one after the first removal but GR said re-use the old one if it didn't tear, so I figured why not. This is the turbo type gasket btw. My block and head have been surface ground, not machined so this may be something to do with the lack of tearing.
For a good gasket life, I tension the head, warm up the engine properly, then tension again the next day (after cool down). If you do this you will find that you probably won't need to check again. I started doing this after using copper head gaskets and finding leaks after a few days. I don't use copper anymore, they are too exe for me.
I generally don't use any gasket goo on head gaskets, but make especially sure the surfaces are clean by scraping with a razor and Loctite "chisel" to remove old gasket. Interestingly, I use blue RTV on everything else, I don't have any gearbox gaskets anymore, the only places are where the engine/tranmission join (for the correct gap).
As for bolts, make sure the threads are clean in the block and put a dash of moly-lube on the threads and under head of bolt when installing. They do break though but I've only seen it during the tensioning process, so be prepared for a failure now and then or go buy some studs and nuts. I like studs for the head instal, so much easier.
Daniel